Here are the definitions I found for the Greek word for "obedient," hypotasso.
Strong's: "to put in subjection, subject, subordinate; to submit to, be subject to"
Thayer's: "to subject one's self to, to obey; to submit to one's control; to yield to one's admonition or advice."
Vine's: "being in subjection to"
From these definitions, it's clear to me that when I chose to marry my husband, I was also choosing to submit myself to his leadership - in everything, just as I am to submit to Christ in everything (Ephesians 5:24). God desires for wives to submit to their husbands in the same manner we are to submit ourselves to the Lord (Ephesians 5:22). This is why I was very carefully in choosing who I married. Even though we had only known one another for about a month I knew he loved God and would always love me and lead me in such a way that would be pleasing to God. That was all I need to know. Almost 2 years later, I don't think I could have found anyone better! He is a wonderful spiritual leader, loves me through his deeds and words, listens when I have a suggestion, and almost never makes a decision without first considering my thoughts and feelings, especially if the decision will effect me more than it will effect him. He's not a tyrant and doesn't ask me to do anything ridiculous or anything beyond my capabilities. Actually, he hardly ever asks me to do anything. This is because I too fear God and take my role as a disciple of Christ, wife, mother, and homemaker very seriously. He doesn't need to tell me what to do because I do my best to stay on top of things. I'm really not trying to brag here, but rather make a point: If we as wives are doing what God has commanded us to do then it's easier for our husbands to lead us in a loving way.
We should also note that being submissive in "everything" doesn't mean everything he could possibly ask us to do, it only means what is in accordance to God's Word. If our husband is wanting us to do something that goes against God's will (ie. lie, steal), we do not have to obey, and should not obey because we are to obey God rather than man (Acts 5:29).
When we obey our husbands we are pleasing the Lord and are only doing what is our duty to do (Colossians 3:18).
May we always seek to please God in all we do so that He may be glorified.